Divorce Lawyer
Probably the most crucial aspect of divorce is choosing a divorce lawyer; they need to have certain qualities including:
*Well versed in divorce law *Have the proper demeanor *Be reliable
As far as experience is concerned, an attorney should be able to show that at least half of their work involves divorce cases and have good negotiation skills as well. They must be someone you can trust and work with comfortably; someone who has your confidence.
Those attorneys who prefer mediation will look to solve problems by talking and not through the conflict based approach many attorneys wish to provide. Preparation for both your divorce lawyer and yourself is important so when you contact them, make sure you know exactly what you intend to question them about.
Plan each conversation by making an agenda and write down the things you want to talk about; take notes on the content of the conversation and the amount of time spent on phone calls. Physical meetings will cost more so if an item can be dealt with by mail or on the phone this will save money.
An attorney does not come cheap so use them only for the purpose you hired them for, legal advice, they are not there as an emotional problem solver, there are other professionals who specialize in that area. Stick to relevant facts when you contact your divorce lawyer; do not discuss other matters regarding your spouse unless they are pertinent to the divorce.
Being in control of your own case and your own life is the single best thing you can do, so it is essential that you have a lawyer who can work on that basis. Your legal representative must be told up front that whilst his or her advice is essential, all decisions regarding the divorce will be made by you. You must also let them know that you expect copies of all correspondence to be sent to you for you own records and if you contact them by phone, you expect a reply within one working day.
Don’t think that you have to enter into proceedings armed with a lawyer in tow as they aren’t always necessary although you may wish to speak to one just for advice on a marital settlement for example. You may decide to carry out research first before you contact them, only asking your lawyer questions you have not been able to find answers too. Many couples now arrange marital settlements, and use a divorce lawyer to help them with this rather than resorting to the courts.